Sure you’re nice – most people are. So what?
This quality is one that reflects your feeling
that you’re a man worth knowing and you deserve
women’s attention. But do you really believe
that women pay attention to what you think you
Being nice is not enough. Okay, fine, you’re nice,
but you also need to be interesting.
Unfortunately, “nice guy” equates to wimp/dweeb
in too many people’s minds.
Believe me: you don’t have to be a jerk to
As a matter of fact, women did not like jerks or
aggressive men. They are attracted by challenging,
interesting guys. That’s all. You can be
interesting, challenging and still a nice man. Be
yourself but keep in mind these significant
things that can make the difference between a
regular nice guy and a successful one:
1. Women LOVE a man who is a CHALLENGE… the
quickest and easiest way I’ve ever heard to let a
woman know that YOU are the guy she should be
pursuing is to let women know you are successful
with women. Be a nice guy, but one that is
2. The MOST EFFECTIVE way to approach a woman and
spark her attraction for you is giving her a
COMPLIMENT on her looks. This can be suicidal if
done wrong… but just find something at her what
you really think is special, different about her.
You give attention, and you will get attention in
3. Not being aggressive doesn’t mean that you
have to wait for madam perfection to drop into
your lap (which you as a “nice guy” deserve by
definition, of course). You have to take some
initiative. BE SELF-CONFIDENT (but not really
cocky) and show some honest interest in something
about a woman.
4. The best selling genre of books in the world
is romance novels… because women LOVE romance.
So don’t talk about sport for God seek! If you
are not the type of man that reads poetry or is
able to talk about moon or about the smell of
burned tree leafs, don’t do it. You’ll look
unnatural. But taking your date in a romantic
place, offering her a nice flower, enjoying some
good music or even touching her hand in a
delicate way is very romantic.
5. And don’t talk only about you. You want her to
listen to you? Then first listen carefully to her
when she needs to be heard. The most effective
way to be interesting is asking questions and…
listens. Only try and you’ll see. 🙂
Keep in mind that often (not always, but very
often) when a woman tells you about a problem she’
s having, she’s not looking to you for the
solution. What? That doesn’t make sense? What
she’s often looking for is comfort and
reassurance and knowing that YOU’RE THERE.
6. One of the most important things in dating is
to approach women that are interested in dating
and women that seem to be interested in you. Don’
t try to sell candies to someone that is looking
for peanuts and don’t waste your time with women
that are still affected by their ex long term
relationships. You don’t want to be just a
shoulder to cry?
You only live once, so live your life well!